Throughout history, society has defined a successful leader as being brave, powerful, courageous... However, have you ever considered 'Vulnerability' to be a characteristic a leader would possess?
This is inspired by Brené Brown's studies on vulnerability. Brown stated, "vulnerability is our most accurate way to measure courage. We can measure how brave you are by how vulnerable you're willing to be". This article will discuss how being vulnerable is a sign of strength and how we can all learn to embrace our vulnerability to become brave leaders.
What is Vulnerability?
The Cambridge Dictionary defines the quality of being 'vulnerable' as one which includes "being easily hurt, influenced, or attacked". Often, society perceives vulnerability as a weakness. However, from Brown’s studies, she reshapes the concept of vulnerability as one which helps us measure how courageous we are. To be bold and brave, we must embrace our fears and step out of our comfort zone. According to Brown, ‘showing up despite the risks’ is what will make those who accept their vulnerability stronger and more resilient in all aspects of life.
“If you want something you've never had, you must be willing to do something you've never done.” – Thomas Jefferson
How do we embrace our vulnerability?
Recognise that facing vulnerability is an act of courage and be proud of the small steps you take.
“It’s not the critic who counts”. We must be able to let go of the constant judgement from our peers and strive toward what we truly want.
Learn to face rejection and accept constructive feedback. However, “only accept and pay attention to feedback from those people who are also in the arena”. This refers to focusing on the advice given by people who are also willing to embrace their vulnerability and show up for themselves.
Don’t be afraid of failure. Brown states that “adversity helps us become braver as it presents opportunities to exercise our courage”. Mistakes are not a sign of weakness and we should not avoid them. We need to learn from them and be proud as it shows that we are trying to be more courageous.
Embrace your authentic self. As brown mentions “vulnerability is needed to be courageous, but it doesn’t mean that if you’re courageous, you don't experience fear”. We can all start to practice being our authentic selves through these 3 tasks: loving-kindness, self-compassion and self-exploration.
How can Vulnerability be applied in the workplace?
We all have the potential to be leaders. However, if we can embrace our vulnerability and be authentic- this will make us stronger leaders. An article by Harvard Business Review states how employees are often ‘more comfortable around a leader who is authentic and vulnerable’. This is due to the trusting environment created which is crucial to a team. This trust not only creates higher engagement but also cultivates a sense of pride in their work and team. Hence, as leaders are often perceived as role models, expressing their vulnerability will allow for closer inter-personal relations which can increase productivity and communication within teams.
Below are some characteristics of a vulnerable leader:
Vulnerable leaders ask for help. Unlike autocratic leaders, they are able to seek support and advice from employees as they understand that they are not an expert in every aspect.
Vulnerable leaders take responsibility for their mistakes. They understand that mistakes are a sign of growth and are open to feedback and two-way conversation to communicate any struggles being faced.
Vulnerable leaders are transparent. They communicate effectively with employees and listen to their suggestions. A leader is able to share the prospects of future growth and possible setbacks to create a realistic plan.
How vulnerability is associated with Women
Stereotypically, the characteristic of being vulnerable would lean towards a feminine quality. Consequently, men would perceive being ‘vulnerable’ as a sign of weakness. Women used to fall victim to such situations, however, from the changing social norms we can observe how women are taking larger roles and bringing significant impact in the field of leadership.
If you are interested in the topic of vulnerability and leadership, below are more readings on this topic.
TED Talk: The Power of Vulnerability, Brené Brown
12 Benefits of Embracing Vulnerability in Leadership
What bosses gain by being vulnerable
The strength of Vulnerability
Why the best leaders are vulnerable: 5 benefits of vulnerability-based leadership
Brené Brown: Vulnerability in Leadership
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